The shortest path past is through.

You have carried the memory of a lost person, relationship, pet, or item. Some days you feel better, and then suddenly you remember, and the pain returns. 

Sometimes you feel guilty letting go of the grief, because it means that you are moving on, and moving on could mean your loved one would be less important now. You want to honor their importance while still recovering from the pain. 

Many types of losses create grief, not simply the death of a loved one. The loss of a relationship or a job, moving to a new place, even the intrapsychic loss of something you perhaps never had, but the pain is still very real. If you are experiencing the grief, then the loss is important. 

People going through grief often experience loss or confusion. There may be differences in sleep, eating, or other routines. Sometimes grieving people find it hard to connect with others. Emotional expression might be bigger, or smaller, than normal. 

If your grief is having an impact on your life, it might be time for therapy. Therapy is a place you can safely share the experiences, the moments, and the private longings you don't know that you can share with friends or family. I have done grief therapy for years, and would be honored to walk you through this important part of life.